There’s a quote I’ve always found really interesting in the book Anna Karenina by Leo Tolstoy. You may have heard it before, it’s quoted pretty often:
“Happy families are all alike; every unhappy family is unhappy it its own way.”
I’m not sure if that’s empirically true, but it fits my observation pretty well. I think Tolstoy’s point was that there’s a formula to creating a happy family, and about a million ways to derail from that formula.
I feel the same about success in all areas and happiness in general. There seems to be a formula for creating it, one that gets taught by a variety of people and packaged in a variety of ways but usually ends up teaching a few basic principles. I mentioned in my blog post on Happiness the variables that appear to be a major part of that formula. And while it’s cool to have a list of things to serve as a reference for how you’re doing, one of the most important things you can do for yourself on your quest for happiness (taking for granted that you do, indeed, want to be happy) is to set your intention on creating the life you want.
While this can happen at any time, as people we seem to have anchors around ‘fresh starts’ looking for opportunities to cleanse ourselves of perceived missteps. New Year’s resolutions are a great time to indulge our need for anchors, and let the ‘fresh start’ feeling sweep over us.
My good friends Raj and Gaby Sundra are a couple of truly exceptional people who simply radiate happiness. They accept themselves and others in a way that I’ve never experienced before, attracting friends from all over. Truly loyal friends that would do just about anything for them. They also follow their dreams, not allowing the template of life to dictate how they’ll be living theirs. And they help other people learn their formula through their company called Transformance.
Camronn and I had the privilege of working with them when we consulted with the software company Oracle. The system they’ve developed over the last seven years for reaching individual goals is truly impressive. (I say this as someone who collects models and systems en masse – theirs is truly unique.)
As a Christmas gift, I wanted to let you know about a free teleclass Raj and Gaby are teaching Thursday, December 20th. It’s called “Reach Your Goals In 2013. The Secrets of Stress – Free Productivity and Realizing Your Dreams!” I highly recommend registering. I know the information and goodies they share with you will be well worth your time.
The New Year is just a couple of weeks away. It’s definitely not too early to start planning to make 2013 kick much ass.