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6 Things True Friends Would Never Do

best-friendsThere are three types of friends in your life – acquaintances who enjoy your company for a while, friends who flatter you when the sun is shining and disappear when clouds threaten and true friends, people who have only your best interests in their hearts and would never ever……

1. Walk away when the clouds are looking over you

They always say that you should count the numbers of friends you have when you are going through tough times. Many will stand beside you when you are successful and going through good times; not all will survive the test of true friendship. Look out for the friends who sacrifice their time and resources so you can have it when you need it most. The people who are still standing beside you after you have come out of a difficult period in your life are your true friends. Value them for the rest of your life in the same way.

2. Criticize you for your flaws

We all have flaws, imperfections and things lacking in ourselves. A true friend is one who will see all this and still be your true friend. With a true friend, you can lay exposed with all your flaws and still be loved because they are not going to judge you. A true friend will help you overcome your problems and flaws.

3. Hold a grudge

You would have made mistakes in the past, and you would have learned from them and moved on to grow in your life. Some people will always be there to drag you back with your past. Some people will hold a grudge to your head and fill you with negativity. A true friend won’t. A true friend will always help you repair your past, present and future. If you have someone in your life who always judges you by your past and holds it against you, you need to repair your present and future by leaving them behind.

4. Discourage you

Unfortunately, in life, you will also come across ‘friends’ who will discourage you just to hold you back from your full potential. It may be difficult to see that, but when you do, don’t let these imposers bring you down. Be careful of friends who belittle your dreams. Your true friends will encourage you to reach for the stars, and help you catch them too.

5. Take from you without giving back

Your true friend will make you smile, will never take you for granted and will never leave you hanging. We all have friends who take so much from us and keep expecting more without giving back. Put some distance between you and see if they notice. If they notice, they care. If not, you know where your friendship stands. Giving is of course, part of friendship. The difference here is being taken advantage of. When this happens, you know you can slowly tick that friend off from your true friend list. They can still be your friend because they may definitely have some great qualities.

6. Make you feel like you’re burdening them.

When true friends do things for one another, they should be doing it all because they love one another, because they want to be there for each other and because they care. If promises and obligations made to one another seem stressful, there is something wrong. If you have to chase people or be chased, it can’t be a very good friendship. True friends will make room for you in their lives simply because they want you in their life. If you feel like you always have to fight for a spot in their life, have another look at the friendship.

We do need all kinds of friends in our lives if only for us to realize the worth of our true buddies. Once you have found these true friends who will stick by you through everything, don’t forget to love and value them just as much as you would like to be loved and valued. You can then look forward to a life with some amazing friends. 

About Oksana Ostrovsky

Oksana Ostrovsky is a founder of LoveSense and an author of "Find Love By Finding Yourself" book. Over the past five years, Oksana has had the privilege of helping hundreds of singles and couples open themselves up to experience of more love, joy and fulfillment in their lives. She is a life-long student of human psychology, relationship dynamics, feng shui and other modalities of health and healing.
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  • cornishfaerie

    Criticise (note: British spelling): Only true if it is not constructive (and I mean that in a constructive manner and in a kind, constructive or otherwise helpful tone).

    Take from …: The thing that is particularly important in your comment is this: “The difference here is being taken advantage of.” But I would argue that anyone who takes advantage of [anyone else] is not respectful and is not a friend at all. Differing views on respect and what a friendship is, however, would change this for each person.

    Grudge: Perhaps if grudge against something between the two friends. Otherwise, not sure. There can be valid reasons someone will hold grudges but I agree that ultimately it is far healthier to not hold grudges (and in the case someone is unable to let go then they should – if they can truly understand they have that problem [easier said than done] – try to fix that in some way or another… for their own well being).

    No real comment on the others.