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How To Stop Overthinking and Quiet The Mind

thinkingAll of us get caught up in thoughts instead of enjoying present moment. Either you can’t stop thinking about what you said to your loved one you wish you could take back, or maybe stressing about some event that is coming up, playing out different scenarios… Whatever the case might be, we worry and think way too much sometimes, but you can shut down your nonstop mind with a bit of relaxation, distraction, and action.

It’s Okay if You Can’t Stop Thinking About Everything

Like most people, you’ve probably heard the phrase “Think positively!” every time you’ve expressed your worrisome concerns. Yet when it comes to changing up your mindset when you’re worrying a million miles a minute, staying positive isn’t always possible.

As psychologist Dr. Kelly Neff of The Mind Unleashed writes, it’s typical for us to obsess over previous mistakes, present-day stresses, and anything we think might lead to future troubles. When these anxiety-filled thoughts enter our minds, our minds immediately begin drawing connections and associating those moments with every other bad moment in our lives. Essentially our brains are wired to play connect the dots, leading us to think one tiny instance of negatively causes countless more.

Dr. Neff and her fellow psychologists refer to people who fall into this pattern of obsessing over negative thoughts as ruminators or over-thinkers. Women tend to overthink more than men—but everyone is susceptible to relieving their past woes. As Dr. Neff writes, “The more frequently this happens, the more likely the individual is to engage in this overthinking pattern in the future.”

Acknowledge the Problem

In the same article, Dr. Neff remarks that the first step to calming your frantic mind is admitting that there’s a problem. Sure, you’ve heard that a million times, too—but the key is recognizing just how much overthinking is impacting your day-to-day life.

As temptingly easy as it may be to bury yourself in unhappy, anxious thoughts, the best course of action is acknowledging when you’re heading down a negative path. Once you’ve admitted that your busy brain is starting to ruminate on a lifetime of negativity, you’ll be better able to remember that what’s happening is completely natural.

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Keep in mind that our brains are designed to entice a bit of worry and lead us to overthink—so feeling an overwhelming sense of doom and gloom each time you recall that embarrassing email you sent last month is perfectly natural.

Stop Trying to Talk It Out

Getting together with friends and sharing your feelings and worries might seem like the perfect way to both distract yourself and calm your mind. Yet chatting about your restless, negative thoughts will only make things worse.

According to Real Simple, when we talk with friends, we can leave with an even more dismal mindset. Though friends are great sources of comfort, they also tend to dissect and rehash every detail of old situations—which is exactly what exacerbates overthinking. The more you think about everything that’s gone wrong, the more anxious you’ll become.

Use your friends as more of a distraction rather than a sounding board. Rely on them to keep you active and engaged in other, more enjoyable things that keep the happy thoughts flowing.

Reframe Your Thoughts

Though it might be difficult to stop your mind from its incessant thinking immediately, you can change what you’re ruminating on.

Bruce Hubbard, director of the Cognitive Health Group and interviewed in the same Real Simple article, believes breaking the overthinking habit is as simple as rephrasing your internal remarks. Though you can’t simply flip a switch or tell yourself to cut certain behaviors out, you can place yourself in a better mental state.

Hubbard suggests switching from recalling all of your past negatives to acknowledging what the potential results are. For example, if you’re relieving that time your friend yelled at you for canceling at the last second, stop and ask yourself what the consequences were. Did the friendship end? Is it an earth-shattering moment? Chances are, the repercussions were minimal—and you’ll show yourself there’s truly nothing to worry about.

Distract with Another Activity

Need to get out of your own head? Do so by literally changing your focus: choose an activity or two to distract yourself each time you feel yourself slipping into a ruminating mood.

However, sitting in front of your laptop or stuffing your face during reruns ofThe Bachelor aren’t activities that can pull you into a positive mindset; rather, mindless activities will only encourage you to keep ruminating. In an interview in the aforementioned Real Simple piece, University of Kansas professor of psychology Stephen S. Ilardi suggests choosing absorbing and engaging activities that grab your attention in a different way.

Ilardi suggests getting your blood and endorphins flowing with activities that force you to move, such as a light jog or casual swim. Go out to lunch with a friend—as long as you don’t talk about what’s on your mind, of course—or even sit down before a challenging puzzle or engaging novel. No matter what you do, the important aspect is involving your mind in something completely unrelated to your worrisome thoughts.

Stop Your Brain in Its Worrisome Tracks

Anxiety and worry are normal, and so is our tendency to overthink every little situation, choice, and action. Yet by breaking the habit with a few simple changes, you can begin to both free your mind and open yourself to a lot of good rather than staying stuck in the negative.

So go for a run, practice meditation, or simply read a great book – those are all great ways to quiet the mind. Books are really fantastic as you can learn many powerful tools from them. Below are our recommendations.

Found at http://mind-hacks.wonderhowto.com/how-to/quiet-overthinking-mind-0158666/

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  • cornishfaerie

    “Need to get out of your own head? Do so by literally changing your
    focus: choose an activity or two to distract yourself each time you feel
    yourself slipping into a ruminating mood.”

    Does other voices talking to me count? They chat with me so surely that matters, right? Okay it isn’t that bad (maybe close though). In any case, I generally don’t have this (blocking thoughts) problem although I have to force it out in some cases. I don’t think this is common though in which case yes, refocusing and reframing things is key. And there is that quote “What you resist, persists” that holds a lot of value.

    “So go for a run, practice meditation, or simply read a great book –
    those are all great ways to quiet the mind. Books are really fantastic
    as you can learn many powerful tools from them. Below are our
    recommendations.”

    I’ll agree for one of the rare occasions. Yes, meditation is a good exercise, not only for (that) but for other benefits, too. Reading is also good, at least for those who can read. I won’t remark on the books because I never read them (and I refuse to be judgemental of a book that I’ve never read, at least a real book with real credibility (or is a novel, is historical or loosely based on a real story)) but given I’m a reader (videos and audio recordings bore me senseless exactly because by reading I actually am controlling it, it is at my – usually – much faster rate and I am doing the thinking in full, putting everything together), I definitely agree. There are some, however, that this won’t work for.

    Most critically: none of it will work for those who refuse to believe anything can help them. By insisting that they are setting in stone exactly that to be the case. In other words, they are right – they are helpless with (whatever). To those who can see this though, even if one thing fails, there’s many other methods around. If you need one (and no this isn’t being weak, this is being strong) get a therapist. Only good can happen from therapy if you need it. Anyone criticising you for it is the weak one and the one who is afraid to better themselves.