Do you sometimes stop and wonder how well you know yourself? We are so rushed in life’s race that we often forget to do any self-inquiry, to know ourselves better and to ask ourselves some questions for our own well-being. The right questions will determine the kind of person you become in the long run.
Just like we write end of week reports at work, here is how you can write one for yourself too, just by asking yourself some important questions at the end of every week. So, put aside some ‘me’ time at the end of the week with a nice cup of coffee, or a glass of wine, and spend this personal time-out time for some self-reflection and self-inquiry. Ask yourself…
1. What surprised me this week?
In life, you can never be sure when the next gust of wind will arrive and what it will bring to you. Pay attention to what comes your way. You will see that while you were busy working towards a goal, you got so many other things that you did not expect. So, as you go through your weekly routine, don’t blind yourself from the little wonders that come your way. Keep track of these pleasant surprises and make note of them so you can remember and reflect on them at the end of every week.
You are never too young or old, or too busy to find value and joy in new, unexpected opportunities. So stay on the lookout, and be sure not to lose them in the haste of your weekly routines.
2. What lessons did I learn this week?
Work satisfaction is a very important thing in life. We spend half our life working, so why make it something unbearable? Though much of work is mundane routine, the distinction between activity and achievement comes when you think about the extra ‘X’ factor you got from work this week. What did you learn that you can build on? There will always be successes and failures – ideas that worked and that did not. Acknowledge all the lessons of the week, especially the ones that may not have gone your way and learn from them so you can apply it the next week and make things better.
3. What could I have spent more or less time doing?
Often we end up spending too much time on what is urgent but not enough time on what is important. To put it another way, productivity is not about getting things done, it is about getting the right things done. Look at how you have spent your time at the end of every week and make adjustments in allocation for the next week. Spend time on things that matter, especially on things that add value to your life like your family and friends.
4. What mental clutter can I clear?
The same way we de-clutter when we move from an old house to a new one, leaving behind things we don’t need, we should do the same with all that we have mentally gathered throughout the week before you move on to the next. Eliminate all the unnecessary baggage so the necessary can shine through. Never carry excess baggage into the next week or you will be overloaded way too soon into the year. Things to throw away every week: regret, shame, anger and negativity. Things to take along to the next week: lessons, love and the memorable moments. One great way to do this is by putting all that you have collected into a journal. Once in print, purge all the negative emotions collected and let go of them. Forgive those who have hurt you, forgive yourself and move on to the new week.
We would love to hear your opinion. What would you add to the list?
What questions do you ask yourself during moments of self-reflection?
Do you use any other self-reflection methods (journaling, etc.)?
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