As parents we all want the same thing for our children. We want them to have a memorable childhood, a happy and fulfilling life, and be successful. A lot of this depends on us parents. There is no other relationship your children will have in their entire lives that will have greater positive or negative impact than their relationship with you, so this is one responsibility we cannot take lightly.
Although being a parent may be one of the most rewarding things in our lives, it is also the most challenging role to play. Without an instruction manual for parenting, we still have plenty of information available to us to be the best parents our children can have. Here is a list of 8 gifts you can give your children. The best part is, they are all as easy as A, B and C!
Human beings are made in a way where they shine out when valued. Every individual, from a cleaner to a CEO likes affirmation. When you tell your child how much they are valued and how they are doing a great job with life, you are giving them two things they will need for the rest of their lives – confidence and security.
No one particularly likes boundaries and discipline, but we all need it. Our kids need to be guided down a path that is productive and where they are held accountable should they veer off the path. This teaches them that there are consequences to both positive and negative actions.
When we say friendship, we don’t mean being friends with your children. They will have plenty of friends in their lives, they need us as parents. What children need is to learn how to have healthy and productive relationships with other people. The best place they will learn this is from us parents. How do you interact with your friends and relatives? This is the way your children will interact with theirs too.
When we teach our children to be thankful for the people, things and circumstances in their lives, we are teaching them to always have a positive attitude. People who do not practice gratitude are those who are always miserable, always complaining and the never happy sorts, no matter how much they have in life.
When I drive my kids around to and from classes, we almost always have a good laugh about something that happened during the day or because someone is clowning around (often me!). Laughing releases happy endorphins into our systems and children who laugh a lot push away stress easily. Years down the road, your kids will never forget how you all laughed together.
A rather simple word, but most people find it so difficult to do. Teach your children from a young age to be kind to people around them. As they grow older, teach them to lend their smile to at least one person every day. When they are old enough, teach them to help someone every day. Kindness has a way of coming back to you ten folds and making you happier than the person you have just been kind to.
Our children get so many different messages every day from so many people in their lives. Some positive and some not so positive. While they need both these messages coming at them, they also need your guidance, mentoring and understanding to go ahead and sieve these messages and apply them correctly. Simply put, be there for your children all the time, guiding and mentoring them.
Last but definitely not least, this is probably the most important thing you can give your child – your unconditional love and support. Your child needs to know that regardless of what they do and what they are, you will always love them. Never, ever tell them or make them feel otherwise, even as a joke because they will remember it for the rest of their lives. Unconditional love does not mean that you don’t discipline them. It means that they can count on your love and support when they screw up in life. We parents are the only ones who can give this gift to our kids.