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30 Lessons I Learned From My Dying Mother

24966928_sMothers are angels destined to bring us to life. Not only once, at birth, but also every time we need it. When we are ready to explore a whole new world or forced to leave a piece of us behind, our mothers are there to support us.

Who held your hand on the first day of school? Who wiped away your tears the first time your heart broke? Who squeezed you when you got into university? That’s right; your mom! Yet her job doesn’t end when you enter adulthood, nor do you ever stop seeking her advice.

So when she leaves this world to become a real angel, all you’re left with is her sweet scent, and this advice. Mine passed away a month ago and I’m trying to hold on to her by sharing with you her legacy, the life lessons she’s taught me; along the way and especially during the last few months of her life.

  1. Life equals love, so life without love is not worth living. Love yourself and others unconditionally.
  2. Don’t pretend; be honest. Keep in mind that truth can hurt only once, while lies grow as thorns around the heart.
  3. Accept criticism, but also permit compliments. Both work towards your development.
  4. Accept yourself for who you are, embrace your flaws, cherish your imperfections. That’s the first step to achieving the love of others.
  5. Get to know your inclinations, your passions, your dreams and never let them go. They will fulfill you and make the world a better place.
  6. No obstacle can stop you, unless you allow it. Your worst enemy is you, and only you. If you are better than you were yesterday, the road shall always be open.
  7. In every situation where there is anger, grief or sorrow, ask yourself if it will matter in a year, a month or even a day. Then decide if it’s worth the negative feelings it’s causing you. The answer is ‘no’.
  8. Out of all the options available, only books can bring you happiness, as they broaden your mind. So read, read, read!
  9. Tongue has no bones but can break hearts. Choose your words wisely.
  10. Actions, paired with words, make you trustworthy.
  11. Laughing prolongs and improves your life. Crying eases your pain. Listen to your inner feelings and let them pour out the moment you need to.
  12. Feelings are to be shared with your loved ones. Stay in contact.
  13. Don’t bother yourself with pointless comparisons. Every person is different and so are you.
  14. Before saying ‘yes’ to someone else, consider whether you are saying ‘no’ to yourself.
  15. Home is not where you live; it’s who you love.
  16. When you love, give all of you; yet, be careful not to lose yourself.
  17. Be the star of your own life.
  18. Don’t let go too soon, but don’t hold on too long.
  19. Don’t allow any kind of failure to intimidate you. Remember when you were a kid and every time you fell was another opportunity to stand up again? Persevere.
  20. Beauty can be found everywhere, especially in the smallest everyday things. Observe them and you will earn yourself a rich life.
  21. What happens at home stays at home. Be careful with what you share, especially on the internet.
  22. Strength lies in apologizing and admitting your mistakes. Nobody is perfect.
  23. Embrace your past, live your present, dream of a better future.
  24. Never assume that someone is too weak, no matter how fragile they may look.
  25. Good things happen to people with positive attitude. Misery offers you nothing at all.
  26. Your parents are the people who love you the most. They are happy when you are happy with your choices, even though they may not approve of them at first.
  27. Your decisions should be all yours; it’s your life these decisions shape.
  28. Stand up for yourself and claim what you think you deserve.
  29. Love first; then it’ll be easier to understand.
  30. Death ends a life, not a relationship. Nor does it eliminate memories. It’s them who will escort you to the end of your life.

Now, a bit of my advice – appreciate the time spent, find joy in the memories made, and share the lessons learned with the world (whether by actions or through an article).

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About Oksana Ostrovsky

Oksana Ostrovsky is a founder of LoveSense and an author of "Find Love By Finding Yourself" book. Over the past five years, Oksana has had the privilege of helping hundreds of singles and couples open themselves up to experience of more love, joy and fulfillment in their lives. She is a life-long student of human psychology, relationship dynamics, feng shui and other modalities of health and healing.