“Worrying is carrying tomorrow’s load with today’s strength- carrying two days at once. It is moving into tomorrow ahead of time. Worrying doesn’t empty tomorrow of its sorrow, it empties today of its strength.” ― Corrie ten Boom
Have you ever caught yourself worrying about something from the past that you can’t change? Maybe even about something in the future that you have no control over? Ask yourself if carrying this load helps make your situation any better. Probably not. It is like sitting in a rocking chair, it does not get you anywhere. Stop worrying about making the world a better place, start with making yourself better and even a little happier with these simple tips.
1. What others will think
Live your life for yourself and not for the others around you who are there only to judge you and your actions. If you constantly think of what others think, you will live a life for them. People on their death beds talk about this regret as one of the biggest they have: not living their life the way they wanted. Do you want to regret the way you lived?
2. What you don’t have
Humans have programmed themselves to think of what they don’t have versus what they have, often in abundance. Torturing yourself with thoughts of all the things you don’t have will not bring them to you. Positive action will. If you want something in life, work towards it. Appreciate what you have in life, because the next person is probably full of envy for you because of that. There will always be people with more and people with less. Accept that and move on.
3. Thoughts of when you will be happy
People have a habit of putting their lives on hold until something that is supposed to happen, happens. We don’t realize that by doing so, we are wasting precious time of our lives. Whether your dream comes true or does not, you have effectively wasted your present time waiting for it to happen. Decide you are happy now. Enjoy the journey instead of waiting for the destination to feel fulfilled in life. If you enjoy the ride enough, the destination is sure to be utopia.
The richest and the most successful person in this world has regrets. You and I are not the only ones who have regrets about events in the past. The nest time you sit back and mope about a past regret, ask yourself what you learnt from it, say thank you and never think about it again. Accept what has gone, what you have lost and work towards a better tomorrow simply because we can’t travel to the past and change it.
5. Being Afraid
Just because you have been hurt once does not mean it will happen to you again and again. As much as we all want to protect our fragile hearts from being hurt again, you cannot stop hoping and living. That is enough to drive you into a depressive state, which is worse. Get out there and give it all you have got. A broken heart, a rejected application or whatever else you may be afraid of…..chin up and move forward because it is with the strong and resilient that good things happen.
We don’t realize the amount of internal misery we cause ourselves just by worrying about things that may not need any worrying. Remove the things above from your worry list, pump some positivity in your mornings every day and you are guaranteed to feel a little lighter when you walk. That big burden you carried on your shoulders will soon be as light as a feather.